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Meh 10/10/2023
When did the messenger stop letting new members message
people using points?
0 Comments,
38 Views,
34 Votes
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Use your common sense 7/9/2023
When looking for an experience on this site, just use you
common sense things are easy to spot and if your are unsure
stay away and be safe.
5 Comments,
62 Views,
37 Votes
,0.53 Score
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dirty 1/16/2023
making sure everyone here is clean and want to meet and checking
things out to make sure you are real not a scam.
4 Comments,
78 Views,
52 Votes
,0.11 Score
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asked for money 8/13/2020
How many people her have been asked for money. The other
day a woman was very sad that she couldn't her rent
at a hotel, she didn't get paid till friday. She said
she was in a hotel, because her husband her, but when
I said I was sorry hear that, and if I could see, she disapeared
from the chat, but stayed onlinr.
4 Comments,
119 Views,
76 Votes
,1.16 Score
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Extreme Abuse 1/2/2020
If you say you are no limits are you in danger of not coming
out alive? <br><br>
Could any NO LIMITS slaves tell me what their experiences
are. And if they have got more cautious as a result of their
lack of limits. <br><br>
Thank you
6 Comments,
98 Views,
69 Votes
,1.53 Score
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Violence and reality for trans 11/25/2019
This year, world-wide, 331 transgenders were slain. Here
in the united states, twenty-two transgender people were
murdered. Ninety-one percent of those folks were trans-women
of color. Eighty percent were younger than thirty years
of age. We know that these numbers represent an undercount.
In many counties and regions police reports, media and
even blood relatives misgender and deadname ...
2 Comments,
154 Views,
111 Votes
,2.37 Score
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A Chat with an Ewhore 6/25/2019
The following is a direct cut/paste from a Google Hangouts
chat log that I recently had with someone who IM'd me
on AdultFriendFinder. It has been reported AdultFriendFinder.
<br><br>
<br><br>
Ross - 3:28 PM OK, I am on here Rose Garry - 3:29 PM Hello Ross am here with you too Ross - 3:30 PM I can see you are very pretty, you don't have to keep
sending pics Rose ...
7 Comments,
181 Views,
88 Votes
,2.64 Score
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looking 5/15/2018
sometimes we have to look farther and look into what we have
in cumming sometimes it take bdsm to get to know someone
better and get alone and try new thing and explore new thing
with them. getting to meet someone the first time it take
time to get to know them and get to see what they are into one
you get to know them and see what they are into many doors
open to you and you feel more open to ...
0 Comments,
74 Views,
60 Votes
,2.18 Score
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oohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 9/20/2017
The most effective ways to earn points are to encourage
other members to become your Top Fans, send you virtual
gifts, or by broadcasting your webcam. Members can tip
you points for a great show! Try some clever approaches
in your profile text and communications to gather Top Fans
and gifts!
5 Comments,
109 Views,
65 Votes
,3.84 Score
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Public 7/19/2015
Always meet in public first wouldn't you say?
10 Comments,
132 Views,
54 Votes
,2.66 Score
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GAGOL 7/12/2015
Most people struggle with finding their identity at some
point in their life. They go through a series of changes
and eventually come to a point where they understand and
accept who they are. Before they can accept themselves,
they may experiment with new things or try to ignore a part
of themselves they do not want to accept. Gogol Ganguli
from Jhumpa Lahari's novel The Namesake encounters
the ...
3 Comments,
148 Views,
51 Votes
,2.70 Score
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Warning for UK/London based members 4/23/2015
I got messaged by an American girl based in Virginia stating
that she was coming over to London next week and she said
later that she worked with an organisation affiliated
to ALT that hosted orgy parties and the like. When answering
my questions she was very vague and was evidently trying
to grab money off me. Later another account from someone
in LA responded with exactly the same thing. This ...
2 Comments,
110 Views,
49 Votes
,2.82 Score
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How to use SAVE IMAGE AS 2/7/2015
When I am approached by a Mistress, the first thing that
I do is run her profile photo by a number of on line registries.
Take, for example, a domme who emailed me last night. Her
ALT profile situates her in Redding, California. I used
Save Image As to download her profile photo to the desktop,
and then used both Tineye and Google images to do a search.
There was a positive hit, for ...
16 Comments,
336 Views,
85 Votes
,4.40 Score
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Safety in Meeting Men for BDSM 5/18/2012
Comments on Safety in BDSM MJ Reldan TheSmartDom
Our society began with women as chattel and slaves. It hasn’t
set a good scene for safe, sane and consentual play. Some
men feel that acceptance of their dominance is permission
to hold ALL power and worse, license to wield it recklessly.
The world of Dominance gives shelter to people of poor character
and sick mind, with little to ...
2 Comments,
161 Views,
38 Votes
,5.15 Score
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Meeting in Public First 9/3/2011
I think it is important to meet in public first to see if you
like one another then being in someone's home. You
just never know if you like one another. Of course you will
experience no shows but that is part of dating process so
expect it. I know I heard horror stories. So becareful out
there. So how do you feel meeting in public first? Just Curious.
15 Comments,
356 Views,
65 Votes
,5.01 Score
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When is the right time to meet. 12/4/2010
Since i joined this site, i've exchanged a few emails, but
wondered at some point meeting would be brought up, where
should the first meeting take place and should a trusted
friend either witness it or be near by?.of course it should
be in a public place.then it fells like stepping out of my
box or comfort zone, anyone else felt this way?.
4 Comments,
201 Views,
24 Votes
,1.54 Score
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safe sex 1/29/2010
ok so its been a "viral video" with a woman on
there saying all the guys she has infected with aids. but
yesterday on the radio she called in a cleared it up and said
it was just to get more people to view her site and that she
is 100% percent clean. She also said that this was to inform
peole that aids is real and is still going around. SO WRAP
IT UP PEOPLE PLEASE
0 Comments,
78 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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safety 1st 1/29/2010
its always good 2 b safe o a date when meeting someone over
the net. U never know if they are some stalker psycho lol
or anything like that so always b careful... n always wrap
it up
1 Comments,
56 Views,
20 Votes
,0.19 Score
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profiles 4/4/2009
I would like to point out to people that if they do not fill out their profiles with any details,
then they are possibly setting themselves up to be over
looked. However I do wonder what the point of writing this
in the magazine as most of the readers are people who have
put alot of time and effort into revealing important details
about themselv
1 Comments,
38 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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Chancing an eggshell ambience 12/24/2008
I have recently visited my local BDSM club nights twice
and once to a munch. The munch was very relaxed but I was still
observing etiquette in this situation. I have found the
club nights very nerve wracking as if I was walking on eggshells.
Granted the first night with a Halloween theme went well
and I played with two women, lucky me. The last 'Burlesque'
themed evening I was smiled at by a very ...
3 Comments,
146 Views,
10 Votes
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Safety is a Rwo Way Street 4/1/2008
Safety on dates is really a two way street. I am not a small
guy and in very hard condition. While not a giant I know how
to care for myself and I have the alpha attitude that keeps
most respectful.
I am selective about who I meet and who I date. I don't
send money to on line contacts with tear jerk tales. Have
had those from east and west in USA as well as Russia, Nigeria
and ...
1 Comments,
134 Views,
8 Votes
,5.33 Score
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How Do I Find a Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress? 6/27/2007
Before you even start looking
for a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress. Know yourself,
what your desires, your wants, you needs, your limits and
what you are looking for in a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress.
It's a good idea to actually write these lists out,
that way while you are talking with them you have the answers
right there and don't have to rely on memory. ...
4 Comments,
247 Views,
28 Votes
,7.14 Score
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what kind of tips should guys follow? 11/2/2006
normally, the tips are targeted to woman, should men follow
similar things, something different, or just go with the
flow?
0 Comments,
203 Views,
6 Votes
,1.94 Score
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Beware of the clingy woman........ 10/2/2006
Hello everyone. What's up? I love ladies in every way, but
ther is one that can be a nightmare. She's the recently
seperated female that know's only how to be in a relationship.
They can be the best and the crazyest bitch in the world.
So my advice is to just leave everything sexual.....Good
luck...
2 Comments,
168 Views,
9 Votes
,0.43 Score
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Protection against crazy ex-gf's 9/27/2006
It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick
up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault,
what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like
it.
As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's
always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance
laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...
1 Comments,
244 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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Protection against crazy ex-gf's 9/27/2006
It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick
up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault,
what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like
it.
As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's
always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance
laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...
0 Comments,
28 Views,
0 Votes
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The Best of Times 8/23/2006
What a great age we live in today. Like a lot of people I thought
I was born at the wrong time. I see it more on the alt site,
but I've heard it from several groups. You know, "
I should have been born at this time or that age. But when
it comes to B&D/S&M this is the best of times.
This is the most natural and fun form of "perversion".
Like anything else people can take it too ...
0 Comments,
78 Views,
5 Votes
,0.86 Score
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Sir Thomas Trains Bob and Clair - Part II 8/23/2006
Sir Thomas had Clair and Bob put their hands behind their
backs. He then tied their wrists together behind their
backs. He opened the door to the hotel room and told them
to follow him. Both Bob and Clair being totally nude were
reluctant to go out of the hotel room. They hesitated just
a second before both of them received blows on their buttocks
with a command, “Move!”
...
0 Comments,
470 Views,
16 Votes
,4.01 Score
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Being safe... 7/11/2006
Don't give them your address & landline phone
number.
Do meet first in a pub;ic place. Do arrange a 'safe call'
with a friend for a certain time.
Don't always listen to gossip. Some is malicious,
more inaccurate.
Do get his full real name, dob & address & phone
number.
Trust your own instincts.
Remember we are all human...
2 Comments,
194 Views,
16 Votes
,5.63 Score
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Mother fucker or Dom? 6/26/2006
How to define them? Very simple,
look to their attitude;
Mother fuckers are unable to grow their subs.
They want to get them already educated.
Real domes are always keen to teach, train and grow.
Mother fuckers usually are worry about the level of experience
of their subs.
Mother fuckers ...
4 Comments,
701 Views,
25 Votes
,3.68 Score
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meetings 6/23/2006
how many of you arranged to meet someone and found that they
have not turned up
1 Comments,
345 Views,
6 Votes
,1.66 Score
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FAT BOYS SLIM is not the question when you know the art of trust 6/15/2006
Fat boys or slim?
The domes learn submissive partners for their best.
Unfortunately, at alt.com many submissive boys ask domes
to guess do they fat boys or slim, ha ha
That’s for example, or other secrets,
Often they ask – Prove me that you are the real dome.
Some want to see a kind of magic abilities that the domes
must have.
The domes don’t like to be ...
0 Comments,
108 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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Could YOU be the next victim? 6/9/2006
In our world of instant gratification it is sad, but true
that more and more men turn to the use of drugs to
get the attention and instant gratification of the girl
of their choice, and YOU may not be capable to give your consent.
You are out there looking for a sexual encounter of your
CHOOSING. The magic words are your CHOICE
and with your CONSENT. Don’t ...
0 Comments,
317 Views,
9 Votes
,5.14 Score
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What steps do you take to be safe? 5/22/2006
Ok I am to the point in this I want to meet the other person.
My question is how do I go to be tottaly safe in the meeting?
6 Comments,
292 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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Ohnun wrote thousand letters to the submissive and masochistic 4/30/2006
Part two of IngYang Pussy.
Soon the buns in form of Her Pussy was named as Ya.
The buns became very popular in the region and the town was
renamed as Ya (after the very popular juice Ya).
IngYang when it renamed itself inYa has got improved his
self-esteem too much and too far.
In the result all citizens of Ya became very fat from eating
the buns Ya.
...
1 Comments,
81 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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About Whites 4/24/2006
In his first work day on Saturday,
American Whites woke up at 6 a.m. .
The Sun was already frying the gray day with all its possibilities.
The coldest shower was used to cry: “Have a nice day
Honey”.
After he has inserted his head into the black mask of a cat’s
face, and hands into vinyl gloves,
the schoolgirl’s skirt was put on his hips; the white ...
1 Comments,
412 Views,
5 Votes
,1.19 Score
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IngYang (how to date safety and earn from that) 4/21/2006
Part One.
IngYang is the little town located in the Western Siberia,
Russia. The town IngYang was always known as the town of
the nicest bread. The IngYang’s bread was famous
because of its fragrance.
Ohnun was the woman and the Chief of the baking department
at the IngYang bread manufacture.
All her men of IngYang have never even thought about ...
0 Comments,
63 Views,
3 Votes
,2.94 Score
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How can I be nice but choosey? 4/13/2006
I'm really picky with girls, as I'm sure most are.
I'm sorry to say it, but the vast majority of people
I've met from here are fat and unattractive, despite
me trying to qualify them a lot before meeting. Anyone have
good ideas here?
0 Comments,
56 Views,
2 Votes
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Lookover 3/18/2006
One can never be too safe when meeting people from this site.
I like to chat for an extended period of time and when it comes
time to swap pics then I include one with a beard or in my leathers
from being on the road. I promise after a shave and the jacket
and chaps come off I look totally different. I may also set
up a drink or coffee date and include my clothing description.
I dress ...
0 Comments,
138 Views,
8 Votes
,4.64 Score
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Erotic Nights 3/17/2006
Trina was awakened by the ear piercing screams reverberating
off her bedroom wall. As she fumbled to switch on her night
light she was startled by the gruff voice from her neighbors
apartment that constantly barked orders to the whimpering
woman. Kneel bitch he shouted, as the thud of a whip resounded
off the unmistakable sound of her bare skin. Trina had only
met her neighbor once but ...
0 Comments,
152 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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Hotel Room Info 3/17/2006
A large number of people use hotel rooms when meeting new
people for play, but do you know how important it is to keep
the hotel room cards you get for your doors. These cards
have all the information on them that you gave the clerk,
including credit card number and expiration date. It has
your home address, Phone number, liscence number, and
everything that someone could use to steal ...
2 Comments,
358 Views,
16 Votes
,4.01 Score
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You Never Know 2/20/2006
Have you ever met someone and over the phone they sound NORMAL, and
everything seems to be going well??? Then you meet and find
out this person is a REAL NUT CASE??
1 Comments,
204 Views,
6 Votes
,1.37 Score
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Safety 101: Is He For Real? 2/10/2006
Top ten signs that the "Dom" who just messaged
you is not for real:
<br>
1. He initiates your first email or IM conversation with
a command. This is called the "On Your Knees Now"
routine, and it's the hallmark of a really clueless
HNG (horny net geek) or "chudwah" (clueless
hetero dom-wannabe).
<br>
2. He gets belligerent, rude or angry if you ask a question
or ...
5 Comments,
468 Views,
28 Votes
,6.22 Score
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Safety 101: What Is A Safecall? 2/6/2006
In my previous article, I mentioned safecalls. A safecall
is basically a safety line to the outside world: Someone
out there knows where you are, who you are with, and what
you are doing, in order to help minimize your risk. Here
are some tips for arranging a safecall for your first date:
<br>
<br>
1. Get all the information that you can from the person you're
meeting. ...
1 Comments,
322 Views,
29 Votes
,6.95 Score
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Safety 101: The First Date 2/3/2006
So you've been chatting to that hot new Dom/me or potential
sub online or on the phone for some time, and now it's
finally time to meet face to face! Sure, you have butterflies
in your stomach; but chances are, so does the other person.
Here's some advice to help minimize your risk, and
keep those butterflies calm.
<br>
<br>
1. Keep it short. Half an hour to an hour ...
1 Comments,
1004 Views,
58 Votes
,7.23 Score
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Partner 2/1/2006
Allows spend the night together before marrage.
That the only way u know if you can stand the person in the
morning
0 Comments,
70 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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Drink 2/1/2006
Keep your eyes on your drink at all times
0 Comments,
64 Views,
2 Votes
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the 1/8/2006
Christmas!
0 Comments,
66 Views,
4 Votes
,0.14 Score
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a little stress relief 1/2/2006
"I need to relieve some stress, " was all he
had said before he raised her nightgown up, bent her over
the couch and rammed his cock into her pussy. At the first
thrust of his cock into her pussy, she immediately became
wet.
<br>
"Shitty day?" she said breathlessly as she
looked over her shoulder at him.
<br>
"Just shut the fuck up, " he said as he began
to slam in ...
0 Comments,
235 Views,
10 Votes
,3.98 Score
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Discipline 12/18/2005
The hot lick of sun as it poured over my exposed flesh warred
with the chill air pumping from the car’s air conditioner.
My brain was conflicted as well because the signal it was
getting from my blindfolded eyes was that of complete darkness.
My ears too were submitting almost negative input from
my surroundings. All that i could hear with the industrial
strength ear plugs inserted in ...
0 Comments,
190 Views,
9 Votes
,2.57 Score
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Giving out your email addy 8/30/2005
Hi,
<br>
I'm pretty new to this and I had a question about giving
out your email address. A standard member contacted me
and while I'm interested in contacting her the site
clearly warns against giving out your email address. I'm
wondering if this is for my safety or a marketing ploy for
alt.com as it would behoove them to discourage us from communicating
outside of alt.com.
...
4 Comments,
397 Views,
18 Votes
,3.26 Score
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Taking a risk for r/t activities 8/12/2005
With the ability to determine the origins of e-mails, aren't
on-line members in the lifestyle at a lower risk for harm
than their counterparts, or is the endless ambivalance
to meet justified by a noteworthy experience that has tainted
your trust. How many use a safe call, or bring along someone
else when meeting a potential suitor.
2 Comments,
243 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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First meeting 7/22/2005
I believe a first meeting should always take place in a busy
location were numbers can help make anyone feel safe.
1 Comments,
206 Views,
8 Votes
,5.10 Score
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Is the world that scary? 7/9/2005
How many people are afraid of those they talk to on here?
I know the world is dangers and blah blah. Trust me, I'm
aware; I've lived just outside Detroit my whole life.
That doesn't make me afraid of meeting people. How
much distance would you keep and for how long?
2 Comments,
170 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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man wanting to take me to 5/23/2005
ok, everyone, here it is: I am a 35 yr old single mom. Always
been in vanilla relationships and long to explore and learn
more. Never been fucked by a stranger. This guy on sex search
approached me. In his ad he mentioned wanting a travel companion
for a trip to mexico. well--- here is his latest letter to
me:
Message:
Morning Karie,
Thanks for getting back to me, sending ...
9 Comments,
1000 Views,
17 Votes
,3.55 Score
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Sydney male subs please read 5/16/2005
Beware of dreemmistress, Bondi, Sydney
<br>
I recently contacted the above named mistress through
the alt.com site. I gave her my telephone number when she
requested communication that way. She contacted me through
her 'private number' mobile and we spoke 2 or 3
times on the phone over a period of about 2 weeks. She controlled
these conversations and got me to send her an e-mail ...
0 Comments,
378 Views,
8 Votes
,3.94 Score
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Checking the Bag 5/6/2005
Even after having met a new LOVER or prospective MASTER,
I find myself checking at least initially his bag or luggage
containing the Toys of his Trade. I had a few nasty surprises
a few years back that were sprung onto me during several
extended play session, and which could have been avoided.
Its simply a bit awkward to be bound and secured and then
being prodded with a nasty and ...
7 Comments,
3644 Views,
110 Votes
,5.29 Score
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Lesson Learned the Hard way 3/31/2005
THIS IS ALL TRUE
I met this subie on line and we chatted and found mutual intrest.
After a week of chatting she said lets meet. Well ok I figured
this would be a short and interesting date and we would chat
some more. Well after two or so hours she said lets go to her
place and play. I never did this befor but heard others did
and figured should be safe(BAD MOVE#1).
She asked if I would ...
1 Comments,
734 Views,
15 Votes
,5.27 Score
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Hard Limits 3/16/2005
One of the things I have found interesting is that when most
list hard limits they fail to list the most important one
of all. Of course, I am sure that many feel that everyone
knows that it is a limit but as was drilled into me since I
was a : When we assume..we make an ass out of u and me.
The limit I am speaking of is snuff. I find it almost amusing
that so many take the time to put ...
3 Comments,
544 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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What do you think 3/6/2005
I have just been contacted by someone on this site who viewed
my profile which is fairly specific. The persons profile
states that he is a 66yo white dom although there is no photo.
after exchanging a few emails I gave him my phone number.
The upshot of this phone call is that he is 60yo lives just
over the road from the train station I have to get to and has
a middle eastern accent and ...
1 Comments,
496 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Always Think About Safety 2/11/2005
Here are my guidelines for initial meetings.
<br>
1. Meet at a public place (coffee shoppe, resturant, ...).
Try to avoid bars and any place that might add additional
stress to the situation.
<br>
2. If you have never been there before, make a trial run.
Know what to expect when you walk in.
<br>
3. Bring a friend if you are not completely comfortable. ...
0 Comments,
480 Views,
21 Votes
,4.98 Score
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A CAUTIONARY "TAIL" 1/30/2005

Dolly Pants, Diary of a Sissy Slave
<br>
At the beginning it was a subtle phenomena as simple as mom
wanting their first to be a girl and dad wanting a little
boy. The father, R.C. we’ll call him worked long hard hours
as a coalminer. Mom, we’ll call her Debra had one older sister
and three younger ones. They all thought the baby was a “living ...
1 Comments,
433 Views,
11 Votes
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Confirm ID 1/22/2005
Why is it that the majority of people on here don't have
a "Confirm ID"? Get an ID, people. It instills
a greater form of trust on both sides. I, personally, don't
take any replies I get seriously unless they have a "Confirm
ID". Are these people hiding something, or are they
just playing with the serious ones on here? Master Gene
4 Comments,
320 Views,
17 Votes
,1.29 Score
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there isn't such a thing.. 1/12/2005
There should be one more book about dating, and it should
be call "Dating Safety For Dummies". if there
is one already then good luck with it because in my eyes there
isnt such a thing. I know what you are saying BS BS BS well
let me try to prove it to you, Ask yourself one thing, How
many times have you studied and rsearch a guy or girl and
became friends first before you went out with ...
1 Comments,
213 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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Assault 11/27/2004
Mistresses, Doms, submissives all have to worry about
the safty issue. I met a so called switch in 2004. He was charming
in the beginning but as the relationship progressed flags
started to rise.
He claimed he was divorced but would rant and rave about
his X wife, he was extremely anal about everything. Everything
had to lined up. Even his female attire had to be just so.
After about ...
9 Comments,
2015 Views,
145 Votes
,4.76 Score
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Legal troubles 11/16/2004
There is another type of safty issue that needs to be addressed
here. This is not so much for those new to the lifestyle,
though I'm sure many of that stary-eyed rank can benifit
from this. I however have seen many older members of this
community fall into this trap time and again. The issue
is of underaged dating without realizing it.
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Do not get caught by this!! If the ...
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165 Votes
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Red Flags for a First Meet 11/6/2004
The name has been taken out to protect the person I am talking
about but here is the Scenario:
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Met here, e-mail sent to me, replied to and so on and so forth,
agreed to chat on another service, for realtime conversation
instant messaging. Now this person didn't like the
fact that I don't write novels as e-mails, which is
fine, but then, once in Imz...Hmmmm We chatted a few ...
2 Comments,
871 Views,
83 Votes
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whats really safe? 10/30/2004
When we talk about dating we think of the most beautiful
things, the perfect man or woman and the best sex of all time.
Then we find out the ones we date are crazy idiots who want
to exploid our bodies and mind then trash them like paper
plates, not a good thing specially with all those std's
out there. The truth is there isnt a safe way to date, be honest,
straight forward and be careful ...
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122 Views,
19 Votes
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How To Be An Effective SafeCaller 10/23/2004
Dangerous people, dangerous situations. How do we ensure
our safety when we meet for the first time? How do we know
the person won’t become the abuser down the line?
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These are the most important issues for anyone meeting
anyone, anywhere.
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When a woman goes to a BDSM society meeting, she is meeting
people in a public place. Going out for coffee or a bite to ...
6 Comments,
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54 Votes
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Don't do what I did 10/9/2004
I went to meet Wymondhamguy, andthought Ok we'll
be Ok in private, although he was older looking than his
photo, he was OK.
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When we got private we did some light things, a bit of this
and that, but I had said 'condoms' I had said no
intercouse. ( unless condoms)
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But what did he do, knelt in front of me and F***king slipped
his dick inside me the devious ...
5 Comments,
534 Views,
28 Votes
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Safety Issues 9/18/2004
I recently responded to something written by a submi ssive
and posted under questions here. This submissive wrote
in to say that based on online and phone interaction she
met a Dominant from New York who put her in the hospital for
eight days. She made reference to scening with him while
he was heavily under the influence of alcohol. I have worked
with victims of physical and sexual assault ...
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255 Views,
31 Votes
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youngman/olderwoman 9/15/2004
I am a youngman and I am interested to date older women. Call
it a fetish, but I really think that older women has a lot
to offer compare to younger women. Here's a few : 1.
OLDER WOMEN MORE CONFIDENT - THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WHETHER
IT'S SEX OR COMPANIONSHIP.
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2. OLDER WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE - THEY DON'T
DEPEND ON A MAN TO PAY FOR THEM, THAT MEANS ...
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Pre-Scene Negotiations 7/30/2004
I’ve been giving this list to my fem sub acquaintances and,
over the past few weeks the response I got the most was “Whoa,
thanks for telling me that! I would never have thought of
it!” So, I thought I’d post it to the general public. Some
of these are thing that you probably wouldn’t think of,
but that doesn’t make them any less important.
I’m going to talk about ...
1 Comments,
376 Views,
69 Votes
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Where to meet. Response 7/20/2004
When I meet a prospective partner for the first time, it
is always in a public place. Coffee houses are nice because
the athmosphere is relatively quiet and relaxed, you can
sit close and talk, get to know a person, yet it is public
enough for you to call for help if they turn out to be a little
too agressive. It's also pretty cheap (The cost of
a couple of cups of coffee) and if it is ...
0 Comments,
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41 Votes
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Using common sense 7/18/2004
Here is a simple yet effective safety idea for future 'dates'
and especially bondage submissives. If and when you finally
agree to meet make a note of where you are meeting (make it
a public place so you have witnesses to your meeting) get
as many of your partners's details and proof of identity
and post them to yourself (at home or suitable pickup) this
would deter most of the unsavoury ...
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22 Votes
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Mrs. Hannibal Lecter??? 7/5/2004
I've recently had an email encounter with someone
from this website who is a Dom. SHE had invited me to her network.
I'm a little frightened of this because when I checked
a profile under her AOL account it was all in some type of
code and I've seen the word "Cannibal"
in it. Just wanted to give a heads up to the fellas and ladies
here. You can't be too shore of who you will meet out ...
3 Comments,
287 Views,
36 Votes
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RE. Dating Safety 4/5/2004
OMG what the hell is wrong with this guy. That sounds like
he died and went straight to Alt heaven lol. But I suppose
if that isnt for you, people should be careful and thoroughly
find out what their getting themselves into.
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25 Votes
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Tens unit safety 4/2/2004
Number one it is never a good idea to use a physical device
such as a tens unit. It is used for physical therapy. That
device could cause your muscles to go into spasms.
It could also make blood vessels contract and not in a good
way. It can cause real bad pain if put into the hands of the
wrong person. I have a tens unit for a shoulder injury and
it has instructions on the correct way of ...
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45 Votes
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Novices might want to train in groups 3/26/2004
More so than in other relationships, submissives and masochists
inevitably take particular risks in meeting someone new.
And it's worse for novices. In this light, I want to
praise the bravery of all who voluntarily enter a relationship
as a submissive. It is always an act of courage to submit
yourself to the attentions of us dominants.
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One way (among many options) for ...
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68 Votes
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When Meeting Someone, It is Always Good to Take Precautions 1/28/2004
I think many of us- both men and women- are intimidated by
the idea that we might somehow compromise our safety and
security if we "date strangers from the net".
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Many years ago, if you were to tell a friend that you had met
someone on the net, their first reaction might be something
along the lines of "So you're really THAT desperate?".
But as more and more of us have ...
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118 Votes
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It could have happened to me 1/19/2004
There is a book entitled "Anyone You Want Me To Be"
I suggest...eveyrone buy it Dom and sub alike. The reasons
I will go into now.
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When I was a brand new submissive, I made about every error
one could make. I met someone claiming to be a Dom on AOL...He
lied about being married and having the usual things
I had found out leter. He wanted me to come out to Nebraska
and ...
2 Comments,
253 Views,
79 Votes
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my enslavement 12/1/2002
I was coming from the store after picking up a couple packs
of smokes. As I came up the street I saw a bunch of cop cars
on the street in front of the crib. I stood at the corner watching
hoping they weren;t at my place. Soon I saw two cops dragging
my boyfreind out and throwing him into a car. I knew then
going home wasn';t a good choice.
I walked the streets for a bit finally going ...
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281 Views,
308 Votes
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